As I was driving my kids to school a couple weeks ago, my 8 year old spoke the following words aloud…
“Mom, why do we have to go to school all day while YOU get to stay home and do nothing?”
OH the thoughts I thought. 😉
Now, I can’t say for sure, but I imagine any mom or lead caretaker of the kiddos reading this right now felt STRONG feelings the moment you read those words.
Am I right? 😉
I’ve spent the past couple weeks reflecting on this because honestly, it seemed kinda silly to be so put off by such commentary from my second grader who let’s be honest, asked an innocent question and really, doesn’t get it.
But Loves, let’s dissect this.
We do SO very much.
Most of our day is spent facilitating, leading, acknowledging, affirming, cleaning, prepping, wiping, playing, oooing, ahhhing, encouraging, deflecting, being interrupted, crowd-controlling, chauffeuring, first-aiding, and… truly… surviving.
Our closest relationships are with the laundry machines and the dishwasher…
We basically live in our kitchens…
I personally could use some knee-pads for all the games of “kitties” we play…
And we are scolded by someone a third of our size on the regular for not choosing the “right outfit” or providing the correct snack or making going potty *FUN*. 😉
So much of our work is unseen, seems minute, and isn’t physically or mentally stimulating.
So yes, when the people we bend over backwards to take care of say things like, “You do nothing”… yes, EVEN a second grader, it’s easy to get a little salty. 😉
But Parents… let’s answer this…
What DO we really do?!?
Despite our lack of sleep, illness, and mood, we show up.
We teach, guide, tend to, and play
We lead through our words, actions, and examples.
We practice an IMMENSE amount of patience, all.day.long.
We model *STRENGTH* and *RESILIENCE*.
Through our prepping, routines, laundry, dishes, cleaning, shopping, organizing, and cooking… we create an environment that is both *comfortable* and *predictable*.
My Friends… we’re instilling in our kiddos a sense of love, safety, and belonging…
Which are the three *most important* basic needs of any living human.
These needs being met lead to more successful adults and overall beings.
So, the next time your kiddo says something that makes you see red…
Do yourself a favor.
Check your source.
Look your kiddo in the eye…
And say the following…
“It just doesn’t seem fair, does it.”
WE KNOW what we do…
AND ONE DAY… they will know, too.
Remember, being a parent isn’t about PROVING anything…
It’s about CREATING AN EXPERIENCE that allows our kids to *THRIVE* in this lifetime.
Keep on, Rockstars!
I see you.